Adeboye, who heads the Redeemed Christian Church of God, made the statement while offering marital guidance to young men during the May edition of the Holy Ghost Service held on Saturday.
He warned that choosing a spouse based solely on physical beauty, while neglecting practical considerations, could lead to serious consequences, which he described as a “deep trap.”
The cleric emphasised the importance of spiritual discernment and domestic capability over outward appearance or social standing, cautioning men against being swayed by looks alone.
“There are many beautiful people with questionable character. If beauty is your only reason for marriage, it can become a serious mistake,” he said.
Referencing biblical figures such as Sarah and the Shunamite woman as examples of hospitality and domestic skill, Adeboye advised, “Do not marry a woman who cannot cook. This is sound counsel. Even if a prophet tells you she is your wife and she cannot cook, politely decline.”
Reacting to the remarks, the International Secretary of the body, Osazee William, disagreed, describing the advice as a personal opinion rather than a biblical requirement.
Speaking with Naija Street Matters, he questioned whether the ability to cook should determine marital suitability, noting that men are also capable of cooking.
“This is not a direct challenge to a respected man of God, but it remains an opinion. There is no clear scriptural basis that says a man should not marry a woman who cannot cook,” he said.
William, who also leads the International Fellowship of Ecumenical Ministries, argued that character and values should take precedence over culinary skills when choosing a life partner.
He added that cooking is a skill that can be learned, stressing that marriage decisions should be based on broader qualities.
“What if someone is an excellent cook but has questionable character? Cooking alone cannot define a person. One can learn how to cook over time, even through books. The real foundation should be good character, godliness, and diligence,” he explained.
He further noted that changing economic realities have altered traditional family roles, with many women now serving as primary earners and having limited time for domestic responsibilities.
“There are women who provide for their homes and may not have the time to cook regularly. A person may be skilled in cooking yet lack other important qualities. In such cases, hiring help is an option,” he added.
Earlier during the programme, Adeboye also advised men to reconsider marriage plans if their partners insist on extravagant wedding expenses that could lead to debt.
He also cautioned against excessive use of cosmetics, including artificial hair, eyelashes, and nails, urging men to look beyond outward appearance.
“If your partner insists on a wedding that will push you into debt, it is better to step back. Also, be cautious if everything about her appearance is artificial—hair, lashes, nails. You must ask what lies beneath,” he said.
He further referenced biblical teachings, suggesting that excessive adornment could sometimes be linked to concealment, citing the example of Jezebel in 2 Kings 9:30–37.
