Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala celebrated her 70th birthday recently and Nigerian alpha males took that as an opportunity to advise women as usual.

Telling us that you can be married and still achieve your dreams.

Me: 😂😂😂😂

Sir, don’t use another woman as example. Use your wife!

Yes. Show us what your wife has achieved since she married you.

Let’s be very clear about this, 98% of Nigerian men cannot be like this woman’s husband.

Yes I pulled the stats out of my armpit. Bite me.

A large majority of these men suffer very deep-seated inferiority complex.

How many of you can marry a woman who is far well known than you, and you agree to dissolve into obscurity and support her quietly from the background?

How many? Raise your hands let’s count 🙋🏽‍♂️

I have heard a Nigerian man say that he can’t marry a woman who is working because she will not respect him.

Imagine if such a man was married to Ngozi. She would have had to either divorce him or never become DG of World Bank

So I’m telling you what I know.

Ngozi went to Harvard. I know how difficult it is to go to schools like that. Very intense. Cambridge almost broke me. You barely have time to do anything other than study.

And from what I read, her husband was in her life when she went to Harvard.

Do you think Ngozi was cooking fresh meals everyday and pounding yam daily so that her husband can feel like “head of the house”?

She would not have had the time to be washing his pants daily and still do all the career gigs she did to lead her to her current exalted position.

As someone who moves around a lot and is constantly trying to build my CV so that I can step into big leadership shoes soon, I know that it is TIME CONSUMING.

You need a partner who understands that cooking and cleaning are too small for you spend all your valuable time on. There are bigger things in the future and you need to be investing your time now, building credibility for that future.

How many of you know this woman’s husband? Very few. He’s rarely seen.

You rarely hear him pop up like an impromptu erection seeking attention.

He lets his wife LEAD like the leader that she is.

Even look at this picture. Let’s analyze their body language.

He has his hands behind him and he is standing behind her as a supporter. He is not trying to steal her limelight.

Look at the DG. She has her hands in front of her, her head is held high, and she is in front of the man, as the confident leader that she is. Standing in her full power and glory.

This man’s posture is what you people are now calling “simping”. But see how this man is simping his way into being the husband of the most powerful woman in Africa.

But you that won’t allow your wife buy car side mirror in her own name, you’re comparing yourself to this man.

Please carry your fragile ego problems and stay in the corner.

It’s because of men like you that we do not have a lot more Ngozi Okonjo-Iwealas. You’ve suppressed them with your fragile ego.

What you need to focus your energy on is advising more men to be like this man.

Advise your comrades to get used to not controlling another person. Let the woman you date or marry be free to express herself how she pleases.

That’s how you raise a crop of women who will take on leadership without fear.

Happy birthday super woman and happy birthday to the premium co-celebrant. Abeg organise Masterclass for Nigerian alpha males. Mbok 🤲🏾

Credit to Mkpouto Pius for his insightful thought on this topic.